Girlfriend Plans to Celebrate Boyfriend’s Birthday at His Workplace, Only to Discover He Lied About His Whereabouts and Is Nowhere to Be Seen

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Jul 29, 2024 7:00 PM EDT

I will never understand why people are so reluctant to do the right thing when it comes to relationships. I get that sometimes it is hard, to be honest with yourself and your partner, but surely being honest is so much better for both people than leading each other on and wasting your time.

So this is a message for anyone in a relationship right now – If you don't feel like they are the one, do both of you a favor and simply break up. Don't lie, don't cheat, don't ghost – All you have to do is have one conversation and then both of you can move on.

The couple in this Reddit story needed to have this conversation probably long ago, but the boyfriend held back, and that led to an even bigger heartbreak when his girlfriend discovered all the lies he told her. She reached a breaking point when she tried to surprise him at his workplace on his birthday and discovered that he wasn't there at all.

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  • 01
    my (19f) bf (19m) told me he was scheduled to work all day today for his birthday. I drove to surprise him just to be told he wasn't working today. He lied about work so he wouldn't have include me in other plans. Why?
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  • 02
    My bf and I had probably the picture perfect relationship for a year and a half. We were great on communication, chemistry, priorities, everything was right and we solved any small conflicts
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  • 03
    smoothly. It wasn't till a rough patch in May where he suddenly became distant and blocked me out of his life. He went from updating me about everything to me barely getting lucky if I would
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  • 04
    get a good night text. He pulled up on a motorcycle out of the blue one night when I wanted to see him and I had no clue he'd even bought one, let alone knew how to ride so well already. We started
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  • 05
    talking more again and seeing each other to work on things, and the harder he tries to emphasize how much he loves me and how much he wants us to be okay, the treatment gets worse.
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  • 06
    Today is maybe the 4th time I caught him in a lie when it came to plans. He arranged that he would pick me up this afternoon so I could spend time with him and his family for his birthday.
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    However, he said he was working all morning and I couldn't see him, so I went to surprise him. His co worker told me he wasn't scheduled for today. Yesterday he told me he was working all day,
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    and this morning I found out he was at the beach with his friend instead. He's spent the last days begging me to join him on his birthday, but instead he lied about every single thing to make sure I wouldn't be involved. What in the
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  • 09
    actual did I do wrong. We were talking fine last night. Eveyrhing was fine. But I woke up this morning to lies and his friends and family blocked me. What leads someone to do this?
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    Where do I go from here? EDIT: Jesus well I didn't expect so much insight, caught me off guard but i appreciate all the advice. I had told him last night that I was done with contact. I
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    made it clear and aware to him that going as far lying about a stupid shift at work was more than enough to suspect another girl or for him continuously leading me on for his personal
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  • 12
    gain and emotional benefits without committing. He's tried asking to talk but rn I simply won't. If u can't admit to ur lies then I'm uninterested. I'll be posting an update in the next couple days
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    For those who suspect problems with me maybe being controlling and clingy? I have made it so open and so clear to him that anytime he would prefer doing something else or seeing someone else or
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    making different plans and not seeing me at all, he's free to do so, just tell me. I had spent the last 2 weeks asking and making sure he wanted me around for his birthday, and he insisted. He was so destoryed about working and
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    told me he wouldn't be agaisnt me surprising him in the morning. Looks like he didn't actually expect me to show up and I walked in to his co workers telling me he wasn't even scheduled
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    woman_thorned · 1 day ago He lied to you. He's lying to your social circle and his family. He's a liar. The lesson is to not let it get to 4 times next time.
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    MegIsAwesome06 · 19 hr. ago When someone shows you who they are, listen.
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    goldencricket3 · 1 day ago Early 30s Female So.... you don't know it yet, but he has broken up with you. You just haven't figured it out yet. Stop reaching out to him. I'm sorry you have to have reddit tell you but your relationship is VERY over.
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    WrastleGuy 1 day ago • If his friends and family blocked you then the relationship is over and he isn't mature enough to say it to your face.
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    BeltalowdaOPA22 · 1 day ago Breaking up is pretty much the only option here. Your "boyfriend" treats you like and lies to you so he can avoid you. Why would you want to be with someone like that?
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    NotTrynaMakeWaves 1 day ago You're only 19 and have no reason to invest any more time on this liar. Dump and move on
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    Bath Acceptable1812 1 day ago What did you do wrong??? Why are you blaming yourself? You cannot make someone behave properly and you cannot make somebody live you the way you want. It either is or it isn't. However this isn't your fault. What will be your fault is if you continue to accept this unacceptable behavior.
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  • 23
    chewbubblegumkicka . 1 day ago He's just not that into you, sis.
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  • 24
    NexStarMedia 1 day ago The best thing you can do now is completely ghost him. Do not return his calls or answer his texts.
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    Queasy-Appearance416 · 1 day ago Find a guy who will appreciate the sweet things you are doing for this jack. Move on OP, you sound like a great person and deserve to be loved.
    via u/Queasy-Appearance416

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